Why I Hold Kundalini with Gentleness

Kundalini is often spoken about in extremes, either romanticised as a spiritual peak, or feared as something destabilising and dangerous. In truth, it can be both powerful and unpredictable, and no single approach fits every body or nervous system.

I want to be clear about something important: as a facilitator, I do not control what unfolds for someone. I don’t direct the energy, shape the experience, or decide how it moves. Kundalini has its own intelligence, and each person’s system responds in its own way.

What I do hold is the space around it.

My own experience of kundalini was intense, and my nervous system wasn’t prepared for what opened. At the same time, it was deeply meaningful and ultimately beautiful. It changed how I see myself and the world, but it also taught me how essential safety, integration, and support truly are.

Because while kundalini can open profound states of awareness, it also brings us face to face with vulnerability.

This is why I choose to meet people gently.

Not because the work itself is always gentle, because it isn’t, but because people need to feel safe enough to open to whatever arises. Safe enough to let go. Safe enough to speak honestly about what they’re experiencing, without fear of being dismissed, rushed, or left alone with it.

For me, gentleness means presence.
It means attunement.
It means staying with someone, even when the experience feels unfamiliar or powerful.

I’m especially aware that some people arrive curious but nervous. They may have read stories that frightened them, or felt unsure whether they can trust their own system. I don’t see this hesitation as something to overcome. I see it as wisdom.

A body that asks for safety is a body that wants to stay whole.

So the space I offer is one where nothing needs to be proven. There is room to go slowly, to pause, to ask questions. There is permission to speak openly and honestly, and to be met without judgement or expectation.

Kundalini doesn’t ask us to abandon ourselves in order to awaken.
When held with care, it invites us into deeper relationship with ourselves, at a pace we can live inside of.

And that, to me, is what makes the work sustainable, nourishing, and truly transformative.